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Monday, May 20, 2013

To Young Moms

To all young mothers...I remember!

I remember several years back standing in our kitchen at Teen Challenge. I had four children and the oldest was 2 1/2 years old. Two of the children had special needs. It was probably about 8:00 in the morning and I was tired and hungry. Of course, there was food in the house. I had eggs in our refrigerator, but I was too tired to make them. I distinctly remember looking out the window and wishing there was something like a food truck for mothers that would drive up and deliver scrambled eggs, bacon and a glass of orange juice to me. (By the way, I still think that is a million dollar idea. My sales pitch would be..."Up all night? Let Kathy deliver your breakfast this morning." ha ha)

I also remember wishing I could just grab my purse and the kids and go to Walmart. There was no such thing as a simple, spontaneous shopping trip. To take both of the kids who had special needs on my own, just wasn't possible.

Overwhelmed, exhausted...those were normal feelings during those years.

My husband was a hero because oftentimes, he would come home right after work, take one look at his frazzled wife and say these magic words, "Let's load up!" We would load all the kids into our van and head off to Des Moines for McDonalds, a walk around a mall, or go to Sam's Club to buy lots of cereal! Just getting out for a couple of hours was such a lifesaver for me in those days.

As the kids got a little bigger, we bought a side by side umbrella stroller. That made taking a walk a little easier. (Our twins had CP and weren't able to walk.) Whenever we would  take the kids to Mississippi to visit my parents, my dad would put our very fussy twins in the stroller and walk them up and down the driveway. They were magically quiet during those outings and would come back inside with suntanned faces. My mom would then stuff them with pudding and for an hour or so, all would be quiet. That was quite a gift to me!

I remember how hard those days were. I remember being very sick with intense morning sickness and trying to take care of the kids I already had. There would always come a point where I couldn't do it anymore and Dave's mom would come and stay a few weeks until I could get back on my feet again.

I just wanted to say to all of you young mothers that I remember. It will get easier. Things will get better. It won't always be this hard.

Ask a friend to come and play with the kids while you take a shower. My friend, Nancy, would walk over from the ministry building where we lived, and sit in the livingroom with all the kids just so I could have 5 or 10 minutes to take a shower. She also gave up her lunch hour to sit with the kids once a week so that I could drive to Newton and go to Walmart. Sometimes I would take a couple of the kids with me and sometimes I would go alone.

We started putting the kids to bed early. That way we were able to have 1 or 2 hours to watch a movie or just talk.

One of our kids had severe health issues, so taking a trip away wasn't an option for us, but little things like taking a walk or having my husband take the kids for a walk so I could be alone in the house (!) meant so much. When I did feel comfortable leaving for awhile, I left a long list for the babysitter. I was and am very OCD, so I actually left detailed steps on how to do CPR. I laugh about that now, but I wasn't taking any chances! It's a wonder that I didn't demand references.

It won't always be this hard and believe it or not, you will look back on these days with fondness. You are doing a great job at something that isn't easy. You are investing your time and love into little ones that will remember that you read books to them, made them peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, and watched them splash in kiddy pools.

I remember and I want you to know that it will all be worth it!

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16 comments:

  1. This was perfect this morning as we are taking our five kids (1,2.5,3.5,5,& 6) to a funeral of all places! My mother in law really wants them there and my anxiety is over flowing! Thank for the reminder :)

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  2. What a wonderful post! I'm a first-time mom to a 5-month old and your words made me smile. Being a mom is the hardest job I've experienced but you are right, it gets a little easier and a little better each day. Bless you!

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    1. Thank you for writing! It will all be worthwhile and everything you are doing is important. Have a blessed day!

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  3. Love this post! I have two kids under two and there are days that I think I'm going nuts. This was a perfect reminder that the days are long, but the years are short. It just doesn't always feel like that in the moment.

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    1. I remember that feeling! But now that my kids are older, I sometimes wish I could go back to those days. You are doing an important job and you will see the fruits of all your hard work:) Have a wonderful day!

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  4. First of all, i love your idea of a breakfast truck that delivers! GENIUS!! ha! I've got 3 boys ~ 11,7, & 1 ~ and while there are SO many challenges to having them so spaced out, one of the biggest blessings i've found is that i cherish even the hard days with our littlest! I know all too well how fast is goes!! Long days but short years right?! Oh how some days feel like they'll never end but then i look at that tall, handsome almost 12 year old and smile because it feels like just yesterday i was drowning in toddler "fun" with him!! Looking forward to following you now ~ you seem to be so full of wisdom and love! =)

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    1. Yes, wouldn't that truck be a welcome sight to tired moms everywhere? lol So true about long days and short years...our oldest son is now 22 years old and I just can't believe it. It seems he was just 11 yesterday.
      Thank you so much for your kind words. Have a blessed day today!

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  5. I love this post!! Thank you for the encouragement. I also love the idea of the food truck :) So glad you linked up with us today!

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    1. Thank you! Have the most blessed day!

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  6. Thanks, Kathy! Encouragement is always welcome! It is a nutty stage, having young kids, but yes, there is a lot to enjoy abou tit too.

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    1. Thanks so much for stopping by, Erica!

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  7. Yes, it does get better! That time passes so quickly, even though it seems like an eternity in the moment. I could've used that food truck so many times! :) Still can.

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    1. Yes, me too! Thanks for stopping by Alison! I read your blog everyday:)

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  8. You are so full of grace. :)

    I think your food truck idea is a winner!

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    1. Yes, I think Donald Trump should be listening to that idea:) lol

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